While using devices can be entertaining, it is essential that we help children and teens take a break from screens, especially when they’re spending time with friends.

A no device policy on playdates isn’t about rejecting technology altogether; it’s about setting limits to create opportunities for kids to connect in more meaningful ways. In today’s digital age, fostering real-life experiences is more important than ever, allowing children to bond, be creative, keep active, and have fun together.

The benefits of a playdate without devices

1. Building Social Skills: Playdates present an excellent opportunity for children and teens to foster their social and communication skills. Doing this without devices helps to build stronger relationships and develops emotional intelligence, empathy and resilience.
2. Encouraging Creativity: Without screens, children and teens are more likely to think creatively about how to use their time. This in turn develops their independence, self-sufficiency and self-esteem.
3. Promoting Physical Activity: Children need to be active and enjoy the physical benefits of play. Whether they’re bouncing on a trampoline or making up a dance routine, they’ll be moving and exercising, which is beneficial for their overall health and mental wellbeing.
4. Reducing Screen Time: We know that excessive screen time can negatively impact children’s development and well-being. By limiting device usage during playdates, we can help ensure our children achieve a healthier balance.

How to set yourself up for success:

1. Communication: Communicate your no-device policy with other parents to set clear expectations and avoid any surprises.
2. Providing Alternatives: Have plenty of engaging activities (and food!) available. There’s always something fun to do that doesn’t involve screens, but a few prompts are always helpful!
3. Leading by Example: As far as possible, try to model the behaviour you want to see in your children by putting away your own devices when you interact with children and teens during playdates.

What can you say to other parents?

We understand that you may feel awkward bringing this up with other parents, so we have prepared a simple script that might help:

‘Hi [Parent’s Name], I wanted to give you a heads-up that we have a no smartphone/device policy for playdates at home. We find it really helps the children engage with each other and be more creative with their time. Plus, it’s a great way to give them a break from technology! We have a box by the door where the kids place their phones, but I’ll make sure that [insert name of child] knows that if [he/she] ever needs to contact you, [he/she] can have [his/her] phone back. Thank you for understanding! Please let me know if you have any questions about this.’

What can you say to the teens?

Asking your children’s friends to put away their devices can also feel tricky, especially as they get older. Our advice is to keep it light and friendly, along the following lines:

‘Hi guys, just a quick heads up that we have a no device policy here. We aren’t against technology, but we just think it’s nice for you to be able to take a break from the screens while you’re together. I am sure you’ll find plenty to do, so if you would all just put your phones in the box by the door that would be great. If anyone needs to contact their parents, just let me know – you can get your phone anytime for that.’

The bottom line

Implementing a no-device policy during playdates helps create a positive and engaging environment for children and teens, free from the constant distraction of screens. By limiting screentime, we believe you’ll help your children develop essential skills for the future, all while ensuring they have fun with their friends.